How Being Used For Money Starts. How To See It Before You Become Someone's Resource
A good natured person may not realize that they are merely a resource to someone until it is too late. A cliché example of this scenario is that of a woman dating a less attractive man for money. She drains him of money then leaves. But being used as a resource comes in many forms. The resource being used for may not overtly be money. It may be time and labour. One may use someone for fixing cars or babysitting kids or other chores.
Also not all cases of money-taking are a case of using. Some may be social arrangements. Sugar daddy and sugar baby situations are examples of arrangements. There are even websites to facilitate such arrangements, like Sugarbook.
An instance of using is when a person doesn't know that they are merely a resource. They believe they are loved, wanted, respected, and/or appreciated. It is a rude awakening once they realize what is going on.
I met one stripper who covered four years of her boyfriend's university tuition. She also paid the rent and bought food. He told her that once he gets an education, he will take care of her and pay for her education. He said he is going to be a doctor. In the middle of his 4th year, he left her for another girl. Never returned a penny.
Was this using from the start? Or an arrangement gone wrong? Maybe he really loved her at the start?
I read a story by a trucker who put his girlfriend through law school. She left him after graduation. Did she use him from the start? Or did she love him and then fell out of love?
Often a person gets lured into a situation little by little. I have seen it with both men and women. The pattern of a woman using a man is usually different from a man using a woman. But there is significant overlap. A separate article on how to tell if you are being used will be linked here. As a subscriber it will be sent to you.
The foundation for resource exploitation is usually an imbalance of feelings. One person cares about the other more. Then an act of "out of the norm" giving occurs. This act sets the tone for more "out of the norm" giving. If an act of giving is justified once, then it is justified twice, then it is justified a thousand times.