Are You Using Your Spiritual Growth As An Excuse To Let A Toxic Person Back In?
When you grow and become a higher version of yourself the universe responds to you differently. Right? Right.
When you are a higher version of yourself you elicit a different response from the universe. Right? Right.
When you are a higher version of yourself you elicit a different response from other people. Right? Right.
So, when you are a higher version of yourself you consequently elicit a different version of that one specific person? Right? Riiiiight.
“So this means that I can get back together with my ex and it will be different this time because I am vibing higher, right? I am different so they will have to treat me differently. Right? Yesterday I thought about them and they called and it was a synchronicity and they wouldn’t have called if they weren’t vibing on a matching frequency because Law of Attraction, duh, so I am going to call them obviously this is a sign…”
Well, in principle this is true.
The world and the people in it respond to you based on the conglomerate of things that you are right now at the moment: The thoughts and emotions flowing through you, how you carry yourself, your confidence level, your authenticity level, and yes, how you look.
Something many people don’t realize is the extent to which their soul affects their projected physiognomy. Have you ever seen a person heal and all of a sudden become more physically attractive? And, I don’t mean losing weight or getting rid of acne or lasering off their fines lines (which they may also do), I mean an inexplicable change to the face, have you seen that? I have.
If you feel like garbage about yourself, you will notice that many people are completely willing to treat you like garbage. Usually it is unconscious. It takes a strong and conscious person to not give into it. When I see someone down on themselves, I consciously make an effort to NOT treat them like they are worthless. I focus on their human essence.
If you observe yourself you will notice that you are different with everybody. With some people you will be more reserved, with some more open, with some you will joke, in some you will confide, in others you won’t. We all elicit a different version of each person. And each person elicits a different version of us.
So yes, if you have truly grown and become a higher version of yourself, the version of your ex that you elicit will be different. But…
Let’s Get Into The But
But #1. If this person treated you like garbage, even if it resulted from you not valuing yourself, it still means they had no problem treating a person like garbage. If this was due to immaturity and lack of consciousness, have they grown? If they haven’t grown and you are merely relying on eliciting a more respectful version of them, consider what will happen if you encounter a weak or dark moment in the future. Will this person be capable of carrying you through that period? Or will you always have to be the strong one?
But #2. It is easy to collapse back into default patterns. You may argue, “You are not supposed to think of the negative.” But for real, have you ever fallen back into an old pattern and had to catch yourself? I know I have. This is why it matters whether the person in question worked on themselves. If they haven’t, the onus remains on you to “vibe high.” Are you o.k. with that?
Now if it has been a long time since you have seen this person — we are talking years — then indeed the two of you may meet each other as different people. But if only weeks or a few months have gone by, the risk of reverting to old patterns is not low.
Be careful that you are not in fact using your spiritual growth as an excuse to let a toxic individual back into your life. In this piece I used an “ex” as an example. But this also applies to friends and family.
The reality is that very few people really change. If you are growing, evolving, striving for greater self awareness and consciousness, then you are probably in the minority. Most people want quick fixes. Self growth is a process.
So What To Do?
Ask yourself genuinely, “Should I let this person back in?” And sit with the question for a while.
Be honest with yourself. Be genuine with yourself. Listen to your intuition. Listen to your gut. Pretty much all problems can be averted by being honest and genuine with yourself. If deep down you feel a “no”, then no amount of justifying will change it.
Always be authentic. The payoff is grand.
Thank you for being here.
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